- Let your partner know how you are feeling. Many women worry that their partner may not find them as attractive as before, some worry that their partner may want to have sex before they are ready and most certainly all new mums will be feeling exhausted at least to begin with!
- You don’t have to have penetrative sex to have a loving relationship. Take time to kiss and cuddle, just being physically close to each other is a really good way to resume your sexual relationship.
- Give your body time to heal. This will be different for everyone depending on what kind of birth they have had, whether there are tears or grazes around the vagina or maybe a caesarean scar. Find ways to make sex as comfortable as possible, maybe that means using some kind of lubrication and/or exploring different positions so that you both feel comfortable.
- Avoiding possible infections is also really important. Whilst you are bleeding or still have some vaginal discharge it’s probably better to avoid penetrative sex. If you prefer not to wait then using condoms will help to reduce the risk of infection being introduced into your uterus (womb). It is important to get guidance from your healthcare provider if you are still having discharge after birth.
- To combat tiredness, accept any offers of help around the house and with your baby. No-one can be expected to be in the mood for love if they are exhausted and don’t feel they have a minute for themselves. Making some ‘me’ time, having a nice bath or having your hair done could work wonders for your libido!
- Look after yourself. Your body needs time to heal which means having a good diet, resting when you get the opportunity, taking care with hygiene (wash your hands before and after using the toilet) and doing your post-natal exercises.
- Don’t be afraid to ask for help especially if you are feeling low in mood. Tiredness often causes women to feel emotionally drained but some women will develop postnatal depression. Speak to your partner, midwife, health visitor or GP if you are concerned about how you are feeling emotionally.
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